Friday, May 01, 2009

Today is Okay

Today I am feeling GOOD. Like really good. A little nauseas, but nothing I can’t handle.

Yesterday was just plain old stupid. Brett was a total sweetheart of course, and after he read my email he offered to drive to my office (an hour away) just to give me a hug. Obviously that would have been ridiculous, but it was nice to hear nonetheless.

In other baby related business (for there is no other now), we have recently begun telling all of our friends about our pregnancy and mostly it’s been all positive. I mean, it has been all positive, but I do have one friend who has been trying to get pregnant for over two years. She and her husband have been seeing a fertility specialist for over a year and she’s had all sorts of procedures, tests, taken numerous medications, and nothing has worked. I was kind of nervous to tell her I was pregnant because, well, if I were her it would be kind of difficult to hear that your friend got pregnant on the first try. This is especially annoying since one of our other good friends is also pregnant and all of her siblings have recently had babies.

I called her the other night and just blurted it out, because I am tactful like that. She was congratulatory, but really didn’t want to hear much about it. I understand. I can’t imagine how hard it must be for her and I really wish she could have some good news. She’s got a great life in general and a career she loves, which is something I don’t have, but not being able to get pregnant must be incredibly frustrating. Especially when everyone around you seems to be knocked up.

It’s funny the way some people react to the news. My aunt, for example, who is a little bit crazy to begin with, had the worst response out of all informees. She has no children of her own and because of this, is particularly invested in the lives of my sister and me. She is also married to a complete wack job. I mean, truly, a man with some problems. Anyway, when I told her she said, “Are you sure you want to do this?” Um, excuse me? Is that not the stupidest response ever? I mean, I’m telling you when I’m 10 weeks pregnant, I think that choice portion of the pregnancy is pretty much over, and also, YES, of course I want to do this you mean cow.

Sorry, I didn’t realize how angry I was about that comment. But truly, why do people say the things they say? Even if you think it’s a bad idea, just be happy for me and leave your judgment for behind my back.

On the lighter side, I am recently obsessed with, of all things, Toaster Strudels. I crave them in the morning, and I try not to have them every day because they’re, you know, bad for you. However, the idea of a healthy breakfast often makes me want to cry. In fact that idea of vegetable in general makes me want to cry. I have had salad twice since becoming pregnant, and both times I’ve gotten sick and puked. I have no issues with fruit, in fact I find apples, strawberries and grapes absolutely delicious, but vegetables are evil. Good thing I can stomach the vitamins.

Have a happy weekend. Brett and I are going on a proper date tonight involving dinner out and a viewing of Hugh Jackman and my secret boyfriend from Friday Night Lights. Yippie!


Jess said...

When I called one uncle to tell him I was engaged, he said, "Oh no! Don't send out the save the dates yet!" He was half kidding and I know he was just looking out for me, but that comment still rankles almost two years later. It was just so inappropriate.

Pickles and Dimes said...

Wow. Did your aunt say WHY she thought being pregnant was such a horrible idea?

Inappropriate relatives! There's at least one in every family!

Anonymous said...

I had to tell a friend who had been trying to get pregnant for over 10 years, got pregnant right in the beginning of mine and lost the baby, and then almost didn't get the adoption she wanted. I feel your pain on that one...

As far as reactions, my sister pretty much told me that I'm not allowed to tell my family because it would steal her thunder...Probably what you could have said to the aunt if she's really crazy is "no, I want YOU to do it. You're pregnant now" and see if she flipped out.

I couldn't handle veggies either, I commend you for trying though, I just ate 4 hamburgers a sitting and said screw healthy for that first trimester.

Fiona Picklebottom said...

I LOVE Toaster Strudels and therefore cannot allow myself to buy them or keep any in my house. Have you tried the ones with the fruit AND the sweet cream cheese?

Alice said...

haa. oh man, laughing WITH you at your aunt, not at you. so been there. family is special, no?