tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28627451.post8519408738847483975..comments2023-06-13T05:30:35.808-05:00Comments on Flibberty: AngstFlibbertyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14814796033630554918noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28627451.post-87461807647290534942009-10-23T13:46:17.114-05:002009-10-23T13:46:17.114-05:00Dude. I had FOUR epidurals. FOUR. I had a couple...Dude. I had FOUR epidurals. FOUR. I had a couple of them put in before I could even feel the contractions, that's how pain-averse I am. If you go natural, I will consider you a birthing rock god. :)<br /><br />Sorry about the sister and mom stuff.<br /><br />You'll be a great mom!Fiona Picklebottomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01506170190612993100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28627451.post-65338677732707329702009-10-23T11:36:04.896-05:002009-10-23T11:36:04.896-05:00Regarding the pain thing, having tried naturally t...Regarding the pain thing, having tried naturally twice and failed twice, I will say: <br /><br />a) people experience different amounts of pain. I firmly believe that those who can do it drug free experience, in general, much much less pain. Pain is higher when you have big babies, posterior babies, your water breaks early, or you are augmented with pitocin. I had all four, hooray! So know that much of the drug-free pain management is geared toward a certain threshold of pain that does not often include the aforementioned situations. <br /><br />b) When you're in the thick of bad contractions, you will start seriously soul searching why you want a drug-free birth. It would be handy if you did some soul searching now, so that you know going in why you are doing it. And then have those people repeat it to you when you're failing to remember. But even then, when you are really In It, new answers may emerge and surprise you. I thought I wanted it, and I thought deep down I knew it was best for me, but when I was in it, I realized (for me! just for me!) what a load of bull the idea of a "better birth" via no drugs was (just for me! not you!), especially when I'd had every other intervention on the face of the earth already. It seemed kind of silly to refuse intervention #301, ya know? Plus, as I mentioned before, I had a LOT of pain going on that wasn't expected when I decided to go drug free.Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02864909952004392637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28627451.post-23715052781305159472009-10-22T15:16:21.120-05:002009-10-22T15:16:21.120-05:00i think stressing out about being a mom is the fir...i think stressing out about being a mom is the first step to BEING a good mom :-)Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15287792370490363047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28627451.post-34446126265264891242009-10-22T13:29:48.552-05:002009-10-22T13:29:48.552-05:00I don't think there is any way you couldn'...I don't think there is any way you couldn't do right by your baby. You guys are awesome. Alone and together.<br /><br />I say stick to your guns about what you need from your parents when YOU are in LABOR. They can deal with it or not, but you deserve the experience to be a stress-free and supportive as possible.artemisiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12048259618106957687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28627451.post-70104477426968986002009-10-22T13:02:42.912-05:002009-10-22T13:02:42.912-05:00I am really sorry about annoying family members. ...I am really sorry about annoying family members. Especially uninvolved sisters. That bites.<br /><br />PLEASE don't worry too much about the epidural thing. Just try to avoid induction, try to avoid going to the hospital too soon, and you'll probably be golden, assuming it's a fairly straightforward birth and not too terribly long. <br />And if you do get one? OH WELL. It's not like it means you didn't actually give birth or something! I think enduring nine months of pregnancy, avoiding alcohol, getting prenatal care and all the rest matters WAY more to your baby's health than whether or not she gets a few whiffs of Nubain or whatever. (I totally get yours feelings, btw, I always feel the same way, so I'm just telling you all the calming stuff I tell myself before labor!)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28627451.post-16749164982791639852009-10-22T12:40:46.084-05:002009-10-22T12:40:46.084-05:00All normal. Even the "what if I cave and get...All normal. Even the "what if I cave and get an epidural!" angst. It's OK to voice it. We won't judge you (well, most rational-minded folks won't, anyway!). <br /><br />So....breathe!<br /><br />You'll be such a great mommy!CAQuincyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11821192974215349171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28627451.post-37894439579484908672009-10-22T12:27:06.545-05:002009-10-22T12:27:06.545-05:00I totally hear you - I had my first "I'm ...I totally hear you - I had my first "I'm a bad mom" moment at the dentist office. The hygienist said that I was due for x-rays and I said, "OK." Then 30 seconds later she asked what was new and I told her I was pregnant. To which she replied, "then I guess we won't be doing those x-rays." It did not even occur to me that of course you can't have x-rays when you're pregnant. I felt like I should have remembered that.Bananahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01448587729307622629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28627451.post-57401457928556221642009-10-22T12:26:19.836-05:002009-10-22T12:26:19.836-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Bananahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01448587729307622629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28627451.post-45262745805526911502009-10-22T11:43:44.753-05:002009-10-22T11:43:44.753-05:00I totally hear you on all this stuff. I imagine I ...I totally hear you on all this stuff. I imagine I would have all the same worries if I were pregnant. And I am really sorry that your sister is acting this way about the whole thing, and not being supportive. I'm sure this is a reflection on her and not you, but that doesn't make it easier for you to deal with.<br /><br />About number 5 though I can say that I have 100% confidence that you will be an awesome mom. Really. Your baby is so lucky to have you.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15942269316108576622noreply@blogger.com